Tayshia Adams is becoming the queen of self-care. Between a long-standing skincare routine, constant workouts and sine qua non therapy sessions, Adams leaves no stone unturned when it comes to her wellness journey.
“People might not think it’s a big deal, but loving yourself and taking care of yourself is what allows you to be the best version of yourself – to be the best person for everyone else out there [in] the world,” Adams, who just turned 32, tells Yahoo Life.
The former Bachelorette put in the work to cultivate habits conducive to mental well-being, but it wasn’t until she saw herself on TV that she realized how much work she had ahead of her.
“I definitely didn’t know exactly what I was experiencing,” she says, admitting that she initially dismissed what she would later discover were anxiety manifesting as quirks.
“I couldn’t see myself on TV. I thought it was kind of funny that I would walk out of the room, like, ‘Oh, my God, embarrassing,'” she recalls. “I didn’t really have the right expression to say that it was something like anxiety or that my mental health was kind of at the limit, “I need to … assess it and process it and talk to somebody and go to therapy, honestly,” she says.
Once she became The Bachelorette in 2020, she learned how to express the complex emotions that consume her. But by prioritizing quality communication and therapy, Adams says she’s been able to tackle the sources of her anxiety head-on.
“I’ve always liked the idea of treatment and I’ve always thought it’s a very healthy thing,” she says, noting a measurable shift in social attitudes around the idea of seeking help for one’s mental health.
“I think there was also a kind of stigma with treatment, you know? A few years ago, it was … like, ‘oh, there’s something wrong with you,’ as opposed to ‘oh, it’s just like, my day to day care who I am,’ and it doesn’t have to be that there’s something wrong,” she says.
Adams did have some initial reluctance to open up to a stranger — not to say what’s bothering her, but to identify “why it’s bothering me — and really live in that feeling with someone and work through it,” she says. . “It was something I really had to learn to do.”
As with many wellness practices, the treatment takes time to produce tangible results — something that initially left Adams frustrated and ready to call it quits early.
“It definitely takes time, and I think people think that when you go to therapy, it’s like, ‘Okay, great. I should feel better. I should have more clarity. Maybe it should be going much better than before. within a week or two or even a month, “It doesn’t work like that. In fact, I’ve even gotten frustrated with my therapist like, “Okay, I’m spinning my wheels here, I’ve been super vulnerable with you, I feel like I’m really working with these things and nothing changes,” he says.
But with her persistence, she began to notice gradual changes in her daily behaviors, which she attributes to consistent therapy sessions.
“It’s funny because it took maybe about four and a half months, until one day it clicked for me, I thought, for a while, I’m making these little changes, I reacted to something very different from what I would have done. they have done… six months ago,” he says.
Now treatment is absolutely non-negotiable for Adams.
“I make it a huge priority. I don’t get away from it. Even if I’m traveling, even if I’m really busy or I have another event, that’s going to be the first person I’m going to contact if he needs to be transferred, because that’s the number one my priority,” he says.
In addition to therapy, Adams says her workout and exuberant skincare rituals are vital to her mental maintenance routine.
“I really prioritize my workouts, I prioritize my routine at night — like my skincare, yoga at night,” she says.
Adams has partnered with No7 and Soap and Glory, essential face and body care lines that offer luxurious results without the hefty luxury price tag.
“It’s not like you have to go spend hundreds of dollars to feel good about yourself,” she says. “The fact that you can find a moisturizer or serum that’s super affordable, between $20 and $30, and makes you feel good and see a difference the next day, that’s something I really liked.”
For this next phase of life, Adams is focusing on intentional reflection and prioritizing herself.
“I love myself and it’s the little things that I really started paying attention to because I was like, ‘Why do I feel so messed up?’ “Why do I feel so exhausted?” “Why do I feel so tired?” “Why do I feel like I don’t want to give time and commitment to someone else?” is shared. “It’s because I don’t take care of things and it’s a huge priority for me to do what I need to do.”
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