Lisa Marie Presley says the death of son Benjamin Keough left her “devastated.”
The singer/songwriter, 54, wrote an essay about her son’s July 2020 suicide for National Grief Awareness Day. She said what keeps her going are her three daughters: actress Riley; Keough, 33, and 13-year-old twins Finley and Harper Lockwood.
“Today is National Grief Awareness Day, and since I’ve been living in the horrible reality of its relentless grip since the death of my son two years ago, I thought I’d share a few things to know about grief for anyone If not to help yourself, but perhaps to help another who is grieving…” began the essay published by People.
Presley said “that grieving does not stop or go away in any sense, a year or years after the loss. Grief is something that you will have to carry with you for the rest of your life, despite what some people or our culture He wants us to believe. You don’t get over it, you don’t ‘move on,’ period.”
She later described it as “incredibly lonely”. While people surrounded her immediately after Keough’s death at age 27, “they soon disappear and go on with their lives and kind of expect you to do the same, especially after a while. That includes ‘family’ as well.” without naming.
Presley, whose divorce from her fourth husband was finalized last year, said that in the case of suicide — or other “untimely, unnatural or tragic” causes of death — “you become an outcast in a sense. You may feel stigmatized and perhaps judged in some way as to why the tragic loss occurred. This is magnetized by a million if you are a parent of a child who has passed. No matter how old he was. Regardless of the circumstances.”
Elvis’ daughter has said others are “judging and blaming” her for the death of the son she shared with her first husband, Danny Cue.
“I’ve already been fighting and beating myself up tirelessly for years, blaming myself every day and that’s hard enough to live with now, but others will judge and blame you too, even secretly or behind your back, which it is even more cruel and painful. above all,” he wrote.
She wrote in the heartbreaking piece that “your old ‘friends’ and even family can and will run for the hills,” so turning to support groups with other grieving parents can make a grieving person “feel a little less alone.” Presley hosts meetings at her home, he noted. While she adores the friends who have “been there with us throughout this nightmarish process from the beginning,” she is “starting to love and adore my new friends who are in this same ‘club.’
Presley said her son’s death was truly her “worst nightmare.” While she has experienced loss in her life – including losing her famous father when she was 9, losing her “beautiful, beautiful son” – “the sweetest and most incredible being I’ve ever had the privilege of knowing” – is a loss like no other other.
He called it “a real choice to keep going, a choice I have to make every day.” However, she said, “I keep going for my girls. I keep going because my son made it clear in his final moments that taking care of his little siblings and taking care of them was at the forefront of his concerns and mind. He absolutely adored them and they ».
Still, she and her daughters “lives as we knew them were completely derailed and destroyed by his death. We live with it every day.
Keough died at his home in Calabasas, California on July 12, 2020. The Los Angeles County Medical Examiner’s Office ruled his death a suicide. He was laid to rest at Graceland next to his grandfather in the Meditation Garden.
In July, Presley and his daughter Riley Keough posted tributes to Ben on the second anniversary of his death.
Riley said in a 2021 interview that she was “completely debilitated” after her brother’s death. He couldn’t get out of bed or speak for two weeks.
If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, call 911 or call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or text HOME to the Crisis Text Line at 741741.