It’s not easy being Harry Styles’ partner — and he knows it.
In conversation with Rolling rock, the British pop star and heartthrob, 28, opened up about his fans’ relationship with girlfriend Olivia Wilde, 38, and how “difficult” it was. Wilde, who directed him inside Do not worry darling when they started dating in late 2020, she also chimed in with her own thoughts on the “toxic negativity” that has hit them.
“That obviously doesn’t make me feel good,” Styles said when asked about the hate directed at Wilde from a corner of his fans. Fodder includes criticism of their age difference, some of her comments that have resurfaced in the past, her dancing skills at his concerts, and accusations that she somehow stole Styles from the fans.
The “As It Was” singer opened up about the boundaries he’s drawn between being a pop icon and his life out of the spotlight, from keeping a minimal social media presence to his ritual of showers immediately after each performance to clean off the “unnatural” worship he directs. to him as a pop superstar and bring him back to his vulnerable, human form. But even with these boundaries, sometimes “other people blur the boundaries for you.”
“It’s obviously a hard feeling to feel like being around me means you’re ransomed in a corner of Twitter or something,” he said. “I just wanted to sing. I didn’t want to go into it if I was going to hurt people like that.”
Wilde was asked about fan hate for the article and her response was described as diplomatic. He described his fans in general as “deeply loving people” who have cultivated an accepting community known as a safe space where they can be themselves. However, he continued, “What I don’t understand about the cruelty you refer to is that this kind of toxic negativity is the opposite of Harry and everything he puts out there. I don’t personally believe that hateful energy defines him. The majority of them are true champions of kindness.”
Styles talked about how negativity has made for some uncomfortable conversations in his life.
“You can imagine going on a second date with someone and going, ‘Okay, there’s this angle of the thing, and they’re going to say this, and it’s going to be really crazy, and it’s going to be really mean, and it’s not true. .. But anyway, what do you want to eat?”
He said that his mother was and has always been about separating his public persona and his private life.
“I’ve never spoken publicly about my life away from work and I’ve found that it’s benefited me positively,” he said. “There’s always going to be a version of a narrative, and I think I just decided that I’m not going to spend time trying to fix it or redirect it in some way.”
Styles also talked about having kids one day. Wilde has two with ex-fiancé Jason Sudeikis — and they’ve been spotted with their mom in Love on Tour shows.
“So if I ever have kids, I’m going to encourage them to be themselves and be vulnerable and share,” she said.
Elsewhere in the interview, Styles also made accusations of “queerbaiting.”
“Sometimes people say, ‘You’ve only been in public with women,’ and I don’t think I’ve been in public with anyone,” she said. “If someone takes a picture of you with someone, it doesn’t mean you’re choosing to have a public relationship or anything like that.”
Styles and Wilde began dating in the fall of 2020 while filming Do not worry darling during the pandemic. She split with Sudeikis — with whom she shares Otis, 8, and Daisy, 5 — around that time, and went public with Styles in January 2021. The movie comes out September 23.
Meanwhile, Wilde and Sudeikis have a bitter custody battle. He served her while on stage at CinemaCon. He recently lost his attempt to take their custody dispute to New York courts. A judge ruled that custody should be determined in California, which was the children’s home state before the couple split. In court documents, Sudeikis revealed that Wilde plans to relocate from Los Angeles to London — home to Styles (he also has a home in Los Angeles) — after the 2022-2023 school year ends next June.